Oh so many people could benefit from this lesson of how to have fun in the strenuous moments in our lives. This lesson is critical, especially as we often (if not constantly) are seeking happiness.
I am a true believer that happiness can be found anywhere and at any time. I’ve had many experiences where this belief has been challenged, yet each time I conquer, not only does the opposite statement get weaker, but I as an individual become WAY stronger!
We can’t avoid strenuous moments. As we’re seeking to accomplish great goals and mighty changes in our lives, we’re especially going to see hard times and be challenged at great lengths.
What are some of the difficulties you have faced, especially in regards to attempting to progress?
Here are a couple of examples that either I have faced or have seen others face:
- We don’t have the energy or motivation to keep going
- Distractions fill our lives
- We don’t know what to do or how to go about the process (we get stuck)
- The goal is not a high enough priority
- We simply just forget
- We don’t have enough time
We could go on and add a million things to this list, right? But that’s not the point of this post! The point of this post is to learn how to still have fun as we continue working to “climb the mountain”.
The first item I want to mention as we seek to conquer extreme efforts is to look for the good in the challenge.
What? Yeah, there’s always going to be challenges and we can’t always avoid them, so instead of being let down by the struggles we face, try and change your viewpoint on the matter.
One goal I’ve worked on in the past was me trying to strengthen a relationship with one of my good friends. At the time, I was also trying to develop patience and was put in a situation where that was tried ridiculously. I was annoyed, frustrated (whatever you will) and I felt my relationship with this person was really struggling. Instead of staying annoyed and frustrated, I made myself pause and think what good could come from this. Not only was I given an opportunity to work on my patience, but I thought of how going about this situation in a certain way would strengthen my relationship with them. Not to say that this was easy, but when I saw the good that could come from it, it completely changed my perspective and those feelings of annoyance and frustration melted away. I’m also happy to say that my relationship with this friend as well as my ability to be patient were strengthened that day!
Simply looking for the good in a challenge can go a long way on its own and help you in extreme ways (so don’t just ignore doing this!!), but something else to help add fun in these moments is to call your strengths to action.
A client I’ve worked with was struggling with a goal that she could not make progress on, no matter what she did. She came up with several calls to action she could do but nothing ever stuck.
As we tackled this issue further, we discovered that one of her strengths was her relationship with her family and how supportive they were. She loved spending time with them and always felt very built up by them, and it was when she recognized this and used them as means for her motivation that she finally began to see progress.
You have strengths. If you don’t know what they are, I challenge you to find them! I’m sure, if you think hard enough, you can quickly come up with a couple of ideas. Throw at least one of them in the comments because I’d love to hear more about you!
Now think: How can you use one or more of your strengths as you face struggles in reaching your goals?
Another great thing about calling your strengths to action in times of need, is that they’ll only get stronger as you use them more and more. How great is that?
In regards to my client, her relationship with her family only got stronger (and she even ended up helping them).
Lastly, I would just mention that finding enjoyment in the trials of life can really help you in ways you can’t imagine. I can’t stress this enough and I’ve experienced the benefits of it way too strongly and often to not call it out. If you want to truly grow as a person and make immense progress in your goals, you need to apply this truth!
If this is something you would like to better understand how to do, either drop a comment down below or send me a message and I would be happy to respond and design a program to help you with this!
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