If you’ve been keeping up on the content from the world of Enhancing The Good, you’ll notice that much of it is focused on the different essential parts that make finally reaching your goals much more realistic and manageable than without knowing these things.
This week, we’re covering three very important qualifications for setting goals. Of course, completing a goal is still possible without these three items, but having them as part of your goal-setting process will make it much easier to achieve. As we dive into what each of these three qualifications are, ask yourself if the goals you’ve set in the past have had them. When they have versus when they haven’t, how was achieving those goals different for you? Or, if you’re thinking about setting some new goals now, think about how you can apply each one of these to those goals.
The first qualification we have for goal setting is that your goal should be focused on one of the eight main roles of your life.
What are your main roles? As humans we have many roles, right? Friend, brother/sister, daughter/son, employee, boss, caregiver, leader of a certain organization, volunteer, teacher, student, etc. What are the top eight most important roles to you?
As our top eight roles are the areas of our lives in which we spend the most time, we’re more willing to give them more time as well. One of your roles could be “volunteer”, but if it’s not in your top eight, it’s probably something you don’t do too often, and although you may be willing to spend time improving in that area of your life, it’s going to be much more difficult because you have that as well as your other eight roles that you’re more focused on and spending the majority of your time doing.
Hopefully if you’re already setting goals, they’ve already checked this box as being in an area of your life that is most important to you (because that definitely leads to more motivation)!
The second qualification for goal setting is that in your top eight roles, the role in which you are determined to make a goal in ranks lower than an eight out of ten on your satisfaction scale. What does this mean? I go into much more detail in my course Control Your Chaos (as well as teach you how to do this well and best apply it to your life), but simply put, when you think about your specific role, how satisfied do you feel like you’re doing at it on a scale from one to ten?
Less satisfaction means that there are much more opportunities to find to get that satisfaction higher and the easier it might be to identify and start working on it. The world is your oyster here, which can be so exciting! Where do you want to start? What do you want to do?
Something to watch out for here though is if your satisfaction rate in this role is really low (between a one and four). If it is, ask yourself how important this role actually is to you. As you might be struggling to find some motivation in a role you may not be spending very much time in (but would like to), it’s important to be set up to be able to succeed in your goal here! (I’m currently working on a new mini course called “Set For Success” and am SO excited for you! Click here to learn more and get a really good deal on super valuable information and tools that will, as it’s titled set you up for success 😉 I really care about you guys and know that you are capable of SO much which is why I created this course and why I have it set at such a good deal. You got this!!).
The final qualification for goal setting is that your goal actually has to be doing something for you.
Sometimes we’re too nice (is that even possible?? Yes!) and we set goals more to help others. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but unless helping others is in turn also helping you it’s going to be a lot harder to reach your goal.
Is your goal helping you in the long run? How? If you set or are thinking of setting a goal more for the benefit of others instead of yourself, how can you see this benefitting you as well?
It’s not that we can’t achieve goals that are meant to help others (maybe a class you teach, kids you’re raising, someone you’re helping to take care of, etc.), but if you don’t have an understanding of how it can help you as well, it’s extremely easy to run into burn out and lose motivation, thus in the end, not achieving the goal you originally hoped for (and deserve, as well as those you’re doing it for). It’s not selfish! You need to take care of yourself too, my friend!
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